"why dont you just give him a chance"
idk because im not physically or mentally attracted to him and ‘but he likes you’ or ‘but hes really nice’ isnt going to change the fact that im not interested
"giving someone a chance" means trying to see if there is a person behind the mask that you might like.
We all wear masks. (well nearly all, generalizations are generally bad form)
If you don’t take the time (“give him/her/zir/xir/them a chance”) to see what behind the mask, you just might be missing out on a wonderful person.
Also, if you only go after masks that interest you, what happens when what hides behind the mask comes out…you’re heart gets broken. You didn’t think he/she/ze/xe/they would be like *that*…
Then you stick around hoping you can “fix” something (someone) that was never broken, just hiding behind a mask. You fell for the mask, not the person.
Best case scenario: you find someone who isn’t wearing a mask. You fall for the person from the start and the only changes are the ones you process together as a team. But when was the last time that happened?